One of the happiest moments when I was a kid was the buildup of excitement walking towards a Toys R us

The internal “AHHHHH OH MY GOD OH MY GOD SO MANY TOYS

Then running from aisle to aisle completely immersed in the pure joy of playing with every lightsaber and action figure. Asking my dad with Saint-like mannerisms for the expensive remote controlled Hummer that I would eventually race across the street to see if it would beat oncoming traffic. It didn’t.

Back when planning out your life meant deciding which 1 toy you would pick out of the hundreds of fantastic options, and loving the indecisiveness.

Back when we didn’t get bored of the things we had because we acknowledged that our lives were just extensions and creations of our imaginations. Dragon eggs and flight, miracles and x-ray sight. Our innocence and gullibility was our greatest strength.

 

The truth is, it still is. In the busyness of life it can be easy to forget to play and have fun for no other reason than to feel joy and nourish our inspirations.

Under all the onion like layers of adult human existence, under the education, the responsibilities, the beliefs, under the achievements and the goals, there is still a fragile being who needs to be nurtured.

Through years and years of social and cultural conditioning we may have learned to cope with life through harsh words and tough love instead of kindness and compassion that wasn’t always available from the world around us. Little you is still very much present inside and deserves your love, compassion and attention.

Self compassion involves creating a space within ourselves free of judgment, a safe area where we can respond to our frustrations and failures with kindness and forgiveness.

We often want to share our caring presence and words for our friends and loved ones when they are having a bad day or going through a hard time, but can we say the same for the way we treat ourselves? When you’re having a rough day and you find yourself saying unkind things about yourself, just notice what’s happening and ask yourself, would a good friend say this? Would it make little me smile and feel appreciated?

The next time you look in the mirror to see that funny looking and beautiful creature blinking back at you, stay a second longer. Say hi to the little you who just wants to love and be loved.

“Be softer with you. You are a breathing thing. A memory to someone. A home to a life.”
– Nayyirah Waheed

Zarrar Jahangir

Zarrar Jahangir

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